After a couple grows comfortable with each other, they may feel that something is missing in their relationship. Even if they are in love, some of that initial spark may be missing. If this is happening to you, take charge of your emotions and boost the romance with your sweetie.
Date Your Partner
Take a step back from your relationship and view it from a different angle. You might discover that you’ve grown so comfortable in your relationship that you’ve stopped dating. Get back into the habit of scheduling a night out and following through just like it’s a real date. It may require relearning the skill of dating. Put your heads together for some interesting and creative dating activities.
How to make dating your partner fun:
- One of you should call the other and ask for a date.
- Enjoy the anticipation leading up to the date.
- Restore the niceties you once had when you first started dating, like holding doors, saying thank you and having give-and-take conversation.
- Look into each other’s eyes when you talk. A major part of the attraction between a couple starts with eye contact.
- Find things to laugh about.
Dating your partner doesn’t have to be expensive. Here are some ideas to save money:
- Peruse the newspaper and find local events that are free.
- Go on a picnic outdoors if the weather is nice. If the weather doesn’t cooperate, you can still have a picnic indoors in the middle of the living room.
- Pick up deli food and find a place to go parking. Get out of your car and do a little star-gazing to raise the romance factor.
- Make a list of great date movies and watch them together.
Small Romantic Gestures
Find ways to show your feelings for your partner. It doesn’t have to cost a fortune or take a lot of time to let the other person know you care. Some people claim that the small gestures are the glue that keeps their relationship intact.
Loving gestures you might add:
- Always give goodbye kisses before parting.
- Share intimate secrets, even when in a crowded room.
- Find random times to say, “I love you.”
- Jot brief loving notes to each other.
Common Goals
Couples who have common goals are likely to stick together because they feel part of something bigger than they are as individuals. The goal can involve acquiring a tangible item such as a car or TV, or it can be an intangible goal both people want such as a cruise or new skill.
Ways to work toward a common goal:
- Sit down together frequently and make a list of things you want. Do this individually and compare your lists. Select something you both want to motivate you as a couple.
- Have a money jar or can. At the end of each day, you might dump all your change into the money jar. You may even add dollar bills to ramp up the savings.
- Participate in the goal together and celebrate small triumphs together.
Adding spark to your existing relationship is worth the effort if you love each other, and it doesn’t have to be difficult. Plan some dates, make small romantic gestures and work on a common goal.
Find this article helpful? If so, read Secrets of Happy and Loving Couples, Keeping the Romance Alive During Deployment and Relationship Advice – Happy vs. Unhappy Couples.
Debby Mayne - Debby Mayne is a published author of more than 30 novels and novellas and former fashion writer for the Home Shopping Network.
