One of the most exciting times in a couple’s relationship is letting everyone know that they plan to spend the rest of their lives together. This can be done individually, but they run the risk of hurting people’s feelings if they’re on the tail end of the information chain. Bring everyone together for a party and let them know all at once.
Who Should Host the Engagement Party
Traditionally, the engagement announcement was hosted by the bride’s parents. However, it is currently acceptable for the bride’s parents, the groom’s parents or the engaged couple themselves to host the get-together.
Guest List
Only invite people who will be invited to the wedding. There’s no point in hurting anyone’s feelings by making the announcement then leaving them out of the big event. However, not everyone who is invited to the wedding needs an invitation to the announcement party. This is generally a smaller get-together with family and very close friends.
Some couples choose to have more than one announcement party. In this case, the first should be for those people closest to the engaged couple, then the rest may follow.
Gift Registration for the Engaged Couple
Although gifts are generally not expected at the announcement party for the engagement, it’s not a bad idea to have the gift registry information available for those who want to know. Since not everyone will bring a gift, don’t make a production of opening them in at the party. Find an inconspicuous spot to put the presents and thank them later with a handwritten note.
Who Pays for the Engagement Party
The host of the engagement party should pay for all the guests. This is true whether it’s at a restaurant or in someone’s home. If the host can’t afford to feed a crowd, invite fewer people or have a party with drinks and hors d'oeuvres.
Introducing Each Other
As guests arrive, the couple will want to introduce anyone who doesn’t know each other or the rest of the people in attendance. It’s nice to say the name of the woman or the older person first and add a brief comment about the person. Always keep it positive in this environment to prevent hurt feelings.
Official Announcement
As soon as everyone is assembled in one place, it’s a good idea to go ahead and make the formal announcement, even though everyone probably knows by now. Feel free to talk about the proposal and acceptance so people can enjoy the romance. This brings the party to a climax, so everyone can offer their good wishes and toasts.
Toasts to the Happy Couple
As toasts are made, the engaged couple should remain seated. After the guests make their comments, the bride or groom may offer their own toasts to their family and friends, or they may simply thank everyone for coming. This is a good time to thank their families for their support.
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Debby Mayne - Debby Mayne is a published author of more than 30 novels and novellas and former fashion writer for the Home Shopping Network.
